Posts from — March 2010

Betrayal can open you up to the bigger story of your life and allow grace to shine through by the initiatory power of Love.

Huh?

Let me ask you a few questions. Have you ever been rejected in love and felt horrible?

Or went down the grief rabbit hole and didn’t come back up for years?

I know I have. Yet somehow, God has changed my perspective on these experiences. And it has been through betrayal every time. This is no cake walk!

It seems like I’ve been getting knocked over the head by betrayal for the last year and a half…
some by employers, some by friends, some by lovers(no family this go round ) and each time I get a bigger piece of the puzzle of the amazing power of Love.

Betrayal can open you up to the bigger story of your life if you let it. The greatest story ever told could not have been told without a betrayal(thanks Judas). And much of mythology uses the betrayal archetypes.

My favorite illustration from mythology is the Betrayal of Ariadne. She is betrayed by Theseus to become the Bride of the God Dionysus. I used to think that was an illustration that our true love finds us after a great betrayal, but now take it to mean we should marry our heart and soul to the Divine regardless of a romantic partner. For an amazing retelling of this story of Ariadne, the Bride of Dionysus Click Here.

Many of us seem to stay stuck in the same story. If you look close enough, you will notice a recurring theme that keeps replaying itself for you to overcome, let go, learn the lesson…however you want to view it.

We are all on the hero’s journey, yet some of our smaller stories need to change. You know, the stories of how you are not good enough, or how you always get rejected, or people are always taking advantage of you. You know those stories that have been around a long time and repeat themselves.

I SAY THE HELL WITH THOSE SMALL STORIES!

Time to create some new ones, baby!

For me, the initiations of Love do not come easy. Lately, I’ve been in a relationship in which all my old survival patterns developed in childhood were coming to the surface to be cleared. This only seems to manifest when I really trust a person and my heart is wide open. It hasn’t happened in 13 years, so I thought those old nasty critters had just vanished into thin air.

Not so.

The vibration of lack was manifesting in some uber controlling behavior(who me?)
And the Universe smacked me down big time. Ouch!

Then a miracle occurred. I did not want to be angry anymore. I just wanted the best for that person, whether it included me or not.

WTF?

Definitely a bigger story for me! My heart is still a bit bruised and that’s okay.  Believe me when I say, the most beautiful heart is the one with the most scars…and I am not talking about the one’s you receive from a triple by-pass.

I have read many books on Love and Forgiveness. I have been making Forgiveness work part of my daily prayers. Science of Being and Science of Being :27 Lessons by Eugene Fersen and Klaus Joehle’s works have a lot of great instruction on the power of Love. Catherine Ponder’s work, The Prospering Power of Love
is the powerhouse book on the subject…short and to the point. If you read nothing else, read Ponder’s classic work on Love.

Sometimes I just forget all I have learned…don’t we all? And then I get shocked into remembering and I seem to reach another state of grace. For I have surely done nothing but be open to this transforming power.

I believe the whole world is being “Roto-rootered” right now. All the negative stuff is coming up to be purged. Our belief in lack is manifesting through our economy and unemployment and our need to control. Our anger is manifesting in wars, acts of violence, and being unkind to those we say we love(and many other things).Our lack of self worth seems to manifest in broken relationships and unhappy marriages, or being alone not by choice. And the earth is experiencing many dramatic changes to assist in this. It is not always pleasant and it can be damn right painful.

But if you sit with it, and ask for God’s grace, miracles can happen. I’m not talking loaves and fishes,but rather the miracle that changes your heart. I’ve had a few of those over the last year and a half. Pain seems to proceed this. All grand alchemy puts you through the crucible of fire, turning base metal into gold. That’s what Love does if you let it.

The trick to all of this is not to shut down.Lick your wounds, get angry for awhile, grieve, but invoke your will and God’s grace to allow your heart to remain open. Keeping your heart open will make all the difference. This is not easy to do, but with practice, becomes easier.

Be willing to walk through the fire of Love …it will hurt(despite what all the firewalkers say). Receive Love’s initiation time and again. If you remain open, you will be transformed.

Love is scary business. It involves risk. You will get burned. But like the phoenix, you will rise from the ashes a different,and dare I say “new and improved” creature.

Love,

Cara

P.S. Take the risk. Divine Love works in you and through you at all times.

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